We make thousands of decisions every day… what to wear… which email to read first… what to say… how many cups of coffee to drink…
Usually, those are simple and easy choices that we make without even thinking. But sometimes, we have much bigger decisions to make that require a lot of thought and wisdom.
For most of us, those decisions come from our head. In the business world, we like to value logic over emotion, thinking over feeling, knowing over sensing.
But what about your heart? How often to you consult your heart’s guidance when you have a big decision to make?
Your brain is great at analyzing outcomes, creating different situations, and weighing the pros and cons of a decision. But your brain is not the only place you’ll find valuable wisdom…
Your heart can help you tune into your inner guidance. Connecting to what you feel inside and listening to any impressions, feelings, or body signals that come up, can help you learn to listen to your wise heart.
While your brain offers information based on logic and reasoning, listening to your inner guidance allows you to see different priorities based on feelings and senses.
The problem with listening to the guidance from our heart is that we often doubt ourselves. There have been times when we were wrong. Without practice and discernment, it can be hard to trust your ability to use your inner wisdom as valuable input into your decisions.
Over time, I’ve gotten better and better at taking a step back from my brain so that I can hear what my heart is saying. Both are critical inputs. Once you start noticing what your inner voice is saying, you’ll start to become more confident in connecting the feelings of your heart with the external world.
A Supportive Thinking Partner
Conflicting feelings, ideas, and choices happen a lot… probably a lot more than we’d like. Our brains like certainty, but our work environments and the challenges we face are complex and changing. So what do you do to decide?
There’s a saying that two heads are better than one. But if you don’t have another person to support your thinking, try using your head and your heart.
I’ve found that, when I have conflicting feelings, my heart can help settle the debate. It’s a source of important information that helps guide me to clarity.
And when I use my heart to make a decision, it feels more valuable, more personal, more meaningful… it feels like I’ve made a choice on purpose, as well as using my expertise. Sometimes when I combine the brain power with the heart power, new creative solutions emerge that are simply better options.
So use your heart as your partner. Doing so will help you discover what really matters to you.
Following Your Heart
If you have trouble listening to your heart, or maybe you have never thought to try, I’d like to share with you how I tune into my inner wisdom.
Follow these steps to see what kinds of feelings arise….
- Write down the decision you have to make on a piece of paper
- Read the decision out loud
- Close your eyes
- Place a hand over your heart
- Be open to the guidance the comes from your center
It’s almost like a meditation… You’re taking time to turn inward and evaluate the feelings in your body instead of just listening to the reasons in your head.
Our bodies are so wise and have so much to tell us. All you have to do is listen.
Start paying attention to your gut feelings, let your heart weigh in on your important decisions, and use this information to see things differently and discover new possibilities. Integrating head and heart can be hard to figure out, but I’m happy to help.
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Jessica Hartung is a partner, coach, and guide for those leveling-up their personal professional leadership, their teams, and their communities to a better future.
Jessica has a passion for inspiring and preparing people to grow from their work to improve their lives. In 1998, she founded Integrated Work, a consulting firm that brings top-notch professional development to mission-driven leaders, while being a learning laboratory for innovative work practices.
Jessica provides self-directed professional development tools to leaders at all levels striving to create positive impact.